Hi dad, how’re you there?

I bet your second life is much more interestin’

Than your first life with me

Hello dad, how’s heaven?

I bet it’s much more beautiful

Than i ever imagine

Hey dad, how could you left me alone?

6 years ago, April 18^th 2011

You left me in this miserable world

With suck people as one of the composition

Do you know, dad?

I always get sick on April 18^th ever since

But don’t worry

It’s just fever with cold and flu, usually  

Literally sick

Probably because people are too suck

Do you still remember, Dad?

You ever said to me once

That a father would never left

His daughter before she can stand

On her own foot

With her own strength

To face the world

But when you left

I barely can feel my knees

How can i stand independently

And how am i suppose to face this miserable life

Without you on my side?

When i was just a little girl

I ever asked you once like

“dad, is it just me who think that most of people in this world are suck?”

And i still remember your answer

“indeed, people are suck, love them anyway.

Someday we’ll leave this world and go somehere

With no suck people there.”

Now, i can guest where it is,

Is it heaven?

If what i guest is right

I want you to know

That i’m glad to know you already there

Okay. It's time for me to define what love is all about.

Love is a chemical process in your brain. All emotions are chemical processes in your brain. And your brain is a physical organ. It means, everything it does, it does in a physical way.

Love is a chemical reaction in your brain. It's not elfin magic or pixie dust or others. So what? That doesn't make it any less wonderful. Yeah. Less mystical, no less wonderful. Spot on.

The trick is to distinguish it from all the other chemical processes that feel subjectively similar to love, like infatuation or MHC (Major Histocompatibility Complex) response. (O, MHC is a genetic system that allows large proteins in immune system cells to identify compatible or foreign proteins. It also allows the matching of potential organ or bone marrow donors with recipients). You can google it if you want to know more about MHC response (or other confusing words in this answer), cause it'll take about 6 sks (or more) for me to explain those words to you.

Now, back to the chemical processes that feel subjectively similar to love.

The technique that helps me understand my feelings and sort out the difference between love and all those various feel-Aline's is to ask myself, is this a desire for me to have the other person, or is this a desire for him to have what's best for himself?

If the thought of me not being with him and him being happy without me makes my inner self stamp my feet and say "Mine! Mine! I want him! He belongs to me! Mine!" then it's not love. Because love is not about ownership.

If the thought of him being happy, even without me, makes me think "Wow, that's awesome! I want him to be happy!" then that's how I know it's love.

Okay, I know right now I sounds like a theoretical bullshit. Hahah. But that's how I define love. Everyone has their right to define love by their own way, hasn't they?

Ps: all images credit to google.