Okay. It's time for me to define what love is all about.
Love is a chemical process in your brain. All emotions are chemical processes in your brain. And your brain is a physical organ. It means, everything it does, it does in a physical way.
Love is a chemical reaction in your brain. It's not elfin magic or pixie dust or others. So what? That doesn't make it any less wonderful. Yeah. Less mystical, no less wonderful. Spot on.
The trick is to distinguish it from all the other chemical processes that feel subjectively similar to love, like infatuation or MHC (Major Histocompatibility Complex) response. (O, MHC is a genetic system that allows large proteins in immune system cells to identify compatible or foreign proteins. It also allows the matching of potential organ or bone marrow donors with recipients). You can google it if you want to know more about MHC response (or other confusing words in this answer), cause it'll take about 6 sks (or more) for me to explain those words to you.
Now, back to the chemical processes that feel subjectively similar to love.
The technique that helps me understand my feelings and sort out the difference between love and all those various feel-Aline's is to ask myself, is this a desire for me to have the other person, or is this a desire for him to have what's best for himself?
If the thought of me not being with him and him being happy without me makes my inner self stamp my feet and say "Mine! Mine! I want him! He belongs to me! Mine!" then it's not love. Because love is not about ownership.
If the thought of him being happy, even without me, makes me think "Wow, that's awesome! I want him to be happy!" then that's how I know it's love.
Okay, I know right now I sounds like a theoretical bullshit. Hahah. But that's how I define love. Everyone has their right to define love by their own way, hasn't they?
Ps: all images credit to google.
